Every now and then I wake to find that I’m really in tune with myself, it almost feels like a steady hum in your chest and everything around you slows down. It’s days like today that I take a moment to reflect on myself and the way that I feel inside. I’ve come to terms with the fact that I’m a little left field, not quite fitting into social standards mainly because I refuse to conform to social norms, and that choice makes people uncomfortable or weary and I’m perfectly okay with that.
With the career that I’ve chosen, one of the number one things to insist is that it’s perfectly okay not to conform to society because all society is made up of is learned behaviours in which people have become comfortable. People are so solidified in these behaviours that it causes people a lot of distress, especially when they feel forced to unify with society and when they don’t they hide away and feel shame, anxiety, depression and self-doubt. These psychological emotions can absolutely destroy people both mentally and physically. Change isn’t a bad thing, it never was, and often a simple change in perception, a simple change in the way we think of a situation is all it takes to shift a stubborn path.
We are not the same, no two people have, view or live in the same reality as each other, we quite literally see different things in different ways. We are all unique to our being, our genetic make up, our incredulity complex minds and thought processes, and our personalities. They all make up ‘you’, yet… here me out… we are all expected to look, act and feel like the next person. What is this going to achieve? All it’s going to achieve is for people to suppress who they are, who they truly want to be (which is themselves!), and for them to never reach their full potential and, as humans, that’s what we fight for to get to the highest level of satisfaction and acceptance within ourselves and that’s one of the things that marks true happiness. Call that a very humanistic psychological view but society restricts us from being who we are and being different when, in fact, we are different from each other.
So, are you ready to break out of societies handcuffs? Because there is absolutely nothing wrong with being you, no matter what your social status is, no matter how much money you have in the bank or what you do and do not own, no matter what you look like and no matter your illness or mental disorder. Nothing stops you from being you, especially other people. Embrace the you that’s in your heart, not the you that other people expect you to be. You won’t regret it, I promise.